Resentment is a conduit for releasing anger. It is an outlet for discharging various forms of stored up frustration and hostility. A resentful person is using resentment as a way to direct his or her own internalized self-judgment on to someone else. It is a means for releasing one’s own internalized overload of mental and emotional misery.
Think of how a backyard septic system works. It’s a contraption where human waste is broken down and released back into the earth by certain organisms. When the septic system either systematically malfunctions or the organisms that break down the waste can no longer can keep up with the work load, then the functionality of the system no longer works. It backs up. The system then overflows above ground and the waste is detectable through all the senses. The fumes, odor and consistency of the human waste become unbearable to any and all who are within the general surroundings.
When we can no longer handle our internal anger, then our capability for processing the associated rage systematically malfunctions and rather than allowing the mind and emotions to process the anger in an internal fashion, it is released externally. It is directed outwardly through the resentment release opening.
Resentment can be used as a release for general anger, transferred anger or direct anger. General anger is when a gathering of feeling and/or thoughts is raised to a crescendo by a variety of happenings. That accumulation then causes one to well up with a surge of anger. Too many things have gone wrong at once.
Transferred anger is when a single specific situation, circumstance or encounter causes one to well with rage and then it is release directly onto someone who had nothing to do with the cause of the flair-up. We can get angry with things that have happened at work and take it out on a friend, lover or kids.
The third example of anger released through resentment is when the specific person who is the supposed cause of the anger is also the target of its release. In each of these three cases anger is released because of the inability of the resentful person to put his or her state of mind in perspective. And as such, blame is projected outwardly as a means to deal with a mounting internal issue. Simply, the anger can no longer be stockpiled internally. This is like hooking up a hose from the septic tank and directing it directly at someone.
Lets look at resentment by using another example. Lets say that between regularly scheduled trash pick-ups, you accumulate several bags of rubbish. And instead of placing the full bags of trash in the appropriate storage container. they are heaved onto the neighbors porch. We often deal with our anger in a like way. It is heaved onto others.
Here are some thoughts that you may want to apply when your resentment is direct at others. Remember: Anger is a happening to which a story is attached. Let go of the story and anger becomes less difficult to manage. Avoid making the incident into a huge drama.
Remember resentment is first self-directed, then directed at another. Let go of the resentment you feel toward yourself for not getting what you expect out of a situation. Release your expectations. Keep your mind in check by remaining in the moment, at at one with Super Consciousness.
Either make a shift or make a change. Create an internal shift in your point of view about those that you resent, or make a change. Make a job change, or friend change or partner change. After the change however please be aware and realize that to be at one with a state of inner-peace, you will ultimately make a shift in your perspective. You will be challenged to move away from your present state of conventional consciousness.
Prepare to release old patterns and habits. Prepare to stop being a conflict junkie. Stop condemning and rethink your position as the victim. Let go of the urge to get in the fight. Avoid the inclination to create a story that involves your concerns. You can’t play a round of golf if you do not walk up on the coarse. Keep your thoughts off the coarse and your inclination to express resentment will follow.
Allow your mind to enter a new perspective, one that is known as either Divine Consciousness or Super Consciousness. In this state on consciousness judgment does not interject havoc into our lives.